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The Day “Gay Marriage” Became “Marriage”

26 Jun

Today is a day that will be written into the history books.

Those of us advocating for LGBT rights have long been looking for the legalization of gay marriage. It is so obviously a denial of basic rights, and is so tangible, that it has been the forerunner for civil rights denied by the LGBT community. Today, it became not something to fight for, but a door that has now opened. Because anyone can be married now regardless of sex, gender, or orientation, “gay marriage” is now just “marriage. And that is something to be excited about!

We took this away from those who have used it as a backbone to their arguments that LGBT people are apparently different than everyone else. Now, we can use this momentum to tear down other barriers to things like adoption, life saving blood donations, and instead of tolerance we can seek acceptance. A same-sex married couple doesn’t have any influence on anyone’s lives but there own, so what is there to tolerate? Nothing. Because everyone should be accepting.

The ruling by the Supreme Court of the United States today, wasn’t a landslide movement, however. Four of the nine members voted against it, and while their reasons are their own, it is hard to say why. These 4 people are holding that their reasons for voting against it was because it was unconstitutional to take away the rights of individual states to decide their own laws. It is hard for me to accept that this is their reason for voting against it.

Considering that in Loving v. Virginia the decision was unanimous, we still have a long way to go. I find it very interesting that in that supreme court ruling, that marriage was a “fundamental freedom”, and that the “freedom to marry or not marry…resides with the individual and cannot be infringed by the state” while citing the 14th amendment of the constitution lends me to believe that the 4 dissents were of no result of the constitution, but of simple bigotry.

Section 1 of Amendment XIV states:

All persons born or naturalized in the United States, and subject to the jurisdiction thereof, are citizens of the United States and of the state wherein they reside. No state shall make or enforce any law which shall abridge the privileges or immunities of citizens of the United States; nor shall any state deprive any person of life, liberty, or property, without due process of law; nor deny to any person within its jurisdiction the equal protection of the laws.


Sounds to me as though yes, the states screwed up. Yes, due process of law landed this issue in the supreme court. And YES, those states were denying the rights of their citizens, which is unconstitutional, and why no, today’s landmark decision is NOT unconstitutional. These 4 folks just found themselves on the wrong side of history.

Yay history!! Now my coworker can adopt another pet and her wife will be able to easily divorce her.


Dissents of the 4 supreme court justices.
Text of Amendment XIV.
And a really awesomely done video about it all.


Please, if you feel as though I got it wrong, I would love to hear your comments as I’m not a lawyer nor a judge (or any expert in the law, for that matter). Make sure you include reference material, though, because I don’t need a bunch of bigoted bullshit cluttering up my space. 

A Lesson Learned – FML and Crossdressing

11 Apr

I recently made a post on FML about an experience I had at Goodwill. I read FMLs every day through the app and it usually cheers me up and makes me laugh; I’ve never really had a good moment to submit, but i figured this experience was worthy enough. The post read something like this:

“Today, I got the first compliment from the opposite sex in months. It was from an elderly, cross-dressing man in the Goodwill parking lot. Apparently, my clothes look “exciting to try on”. FML

So it got published onto the website, and I was like “Yeah!!!”. Then I remembered that people comment on them, so I began reading each comment, aiming to read them all. They went a little something like this:

“Awwwwww! At least he was nice enough to tell you you’re pretty!”

“Well you obviously aren’t attractive or you’d get complimented more often.”

“He wasn’t complimenting you, he was complimenting your clothes.”

And they continually got more and more…despressing? Stupid? Mean? I stopped reading them.

So, I thought to myself, I’m never posting to FML again.

Why? Because the FML post wasn’t the whole story. I also think a lot of those people believed that I was FMLing (totally just made that word up) because I was complimented by a cross-dresser, when actually it was because I haven’t been complimented by a man in forever, and the only person who had the balls to do it was a cross-dressing stranger.  Maybe some of you even agreed with those comments, but without the whole story, the comments are irrelevant. This is what really happened:

I was at Goodwill one night last week looking for an end table or a desk that I could repaint…or really anything that I could use to decorate my nee apartment for cheap. Not finding anything, I left. As I was heading to my car, I see an older gentleman looking at me, so naturally I look over and smile. I kept walking, got into my car, and started it. As I was about to put it into gear, I saw someone approaching my car. I look over and it is the gentleman that I smiled at and I was able to pinpoint what was odd about him. He was wearing a floral print dress and black pantyhose. I rolled down my car window and genuinely asked, “Hi. What can I do for you?” He smiled and while slightly stuttering like some older people or nervous people do, he proceeds to tell me he “just wanted to admire me” and that he didn’t know how I felt when I saw cross dressers, but that he thought I was beautiful and wanted to tell me and that my clothes looked exciting to try on. He then said that he hoped he hasn’t freaked me out (and I interjected that no, he hadn’t)  and bid me farewell. I then reassured him that he hasn’t freaked me out, and that I appreciates the compliment and was flattered. He walked in to Goodwill, and I went home.

The experience made my day. I learned two lessons that night. One, cross dressers are more courageous than I’ll ever be and two, never, ever post to FML again.

Have you ever been complimented in this manner (cross-dresser or otherwise)? Have you ever posted to FML? How do you feel when you see a cross-dresser out and about while you are going throughout your day?