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Parents Kissing Kids, Too Sexual?

20 Sep

I found an article on my Facebook feed warning parents not to kiss their children on the lips because the child may perceive that as sexual or romantic in nature because Mommy and Daddy do it.

To that, I have to ask…why the hell do we have to over-sexualize everything?

Children do not have this perception of sexuality that adults do. When a child masturbates, it is simply because it feels good – the same type of good like the sun hitting your face or your feet on the grass. When a child sees Mommy and Daddy kissing, they don’t have this philosophical inner dialogue about the emotional and physical constitution of the kiss. They see two people loving each other. So when Mommy kisses her son or daughter on the mouth, she knows that Mommy loves her, and Mommy knows that she loves her back.

As fate would have it, I also have personal experience to support this.

When I was about 5, I got “in trouble” with my teacher because I kissed a little boy in my class. My parents are both amazing people, so they completely dismissed the teacher’s concern. Why? Simply because I was showing affection toward him, just like I did my parents.

I can also speak from experience that as you discover your sexuality, you do become aware that you are kissing your parents on their lips, and you naturally gravitate toward a newer, more “acceptable” place – the cheek. The lips then become reserved for lovers. (I will hold that in moments of sweet innocence, we sometimes will revert back to that youthful kiss on the lips.)

I question this psychologists relationship with her parents, too. I have a relationship that if I go home, at the age of 25, and find one or both of my parents laying down watching TV in their bed, I will still crawl into bed with them and snuggle. I’d even say that I’m a very needy 25-year-old child, as I’m constantly asking my parents for hugs. I wouldn’t be surprised if she thinks this behavior odd, too.

Do you think we over-sexualize things? Is it acceptable to kiss parents on the lips? Is it confusing? 

Posting Inappropriate Pictures Online

6 Jun

I recently stumbled upon a picture, like the one above (except with a bottle of alcohol in hand), as I was browsing through my Facebook feed.  It was of a really nice girl I was once friends with once, and it gave me mixed feelings.

First, I don’t understand why anyone would post a picture like this. It makes them look trashy, and like they have no self-control. Now, I know that we try hard to not care what others think of us, but there is some level at which we just need to respect ourselves. Also, looking at that picture just made me sad. Why is it necessary to go this far, and why is it necessary to post and tag a picture like this?

What do you consider to be inappropriate to post online? How do you feel when you see pictures like this?

The “Inappropriate” Conversation

27 May

 

There have been very few occasions in my life in which, if I have nothing better to do, that I will stop having a conversation with someone, especially if that conversation is online. I’ve had many a conversation with people who choose to be inappropriately forward, or whatever it may be. At worst, I humor these people, and find what they have to say funny (I don’t get offended easily). At best, I actually enjoy the conversation.

Recently, I was telling a friend about a chat I was having (online) with a person who is generally very forward, and what I would consider…inappropriate. The chat itself wasn’t inappropriate, but my friend prompted me to stop chatting with this person. I thought that was strange, especially considering I will chat with really anyone. I’ve actually been called someones “hero” for my replies (yes, I’m that awesome at comebacks).

When do things become too inappropriate or people become to forward for you? At what point do you become offended? Do you just stop talking to people when they become crude, or do you humor them?