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Real Talk: I REALLY Want to Love My Period

26 Mar

Okay folks, we are about to get down and dirty and really gross in here. And I mean REALLY. I understand if you choose not to read, but real talk is what I’m looking at, so here we go!

According to the internet, there seems to be a lot of stigma about periods. I don’t really abide by anyone’s rules, though, and will openly talk about periods with anyone. To remove the stigma, some people want to tell you that periods aren’t “gross” but “natural”. I, on the other hand, am here to tell you that no..periods are really disgusting. You know what else is natural? Poop. Pee. Bloody noses. Just because these things are natural it does not make them any less gross. If you poop your pants, change that shit. (No pun intended.) If you pee on yourself, please…don’t just walk around with a pee mark on your pants. And I fully expect that if you have a bloody nose, you stop it and clean yourself up.

I, honestly, have no idea why periods would be any different.

Gross alert: If you have followed my blog for any length of time, you probably know how opposed I am to pubic hair (and just general body hair). If you want a full set of pubes, by all means…go ahead! I will not be joining you. I saw a post just a few days ago talking about how we treat our pubic hair, and how there is a desire to look “pre-pubescent”. Listen, it isn’t about that! Hair usually serves a purpose, and we always say that pubic hair serves to keep gross stuff out (like nose hair), but it is also really gross. It is subject to all of your bodily functions, and here is where it gets real: If you wear a tampon and you leak or you wear a pad (which I can’t even think about how this is possible) and you have pubic hair it is going to stick around! It sticks together, and don’t even get me started on if you throw a clot. Then, you can either hope to get some of it out, shower immediately, or maybe you even have cleansing wipes/products for this exact situation. This is DISGUSTING. So, here we illustrate two things that are dear to me: 1) Periods are disgusting and 2) pubic hair is disgusting.

 

Now that we have that straightened out, and everyone can breathe again…

 

With all that talk and “gross” factor of periods, they are still very natural. The thought of being on any sort of birth control that stops such a natural process legitimately concerns me, even though I hate them. Periods are also something womanhood shares across ages and cultures, and sharing this kind of connection…well…makes you feel connected to your fellow woman. Just yesterday I had to ask strangers not once, but twice, for a tampon. Women can commiserate and revel that we are woman, and we are all connected.

This brings me to my point: I really, really want to love my period.

Every time it comes around, I want to be able to say I am healthy, I am woman, I am remarkable…THANK you mother nature for giving me this gift.

But I struggle…after all, it serves a purpose that I am not connected to (procreation) and again, it is really gross, uncomfortable, and inconvenient. I think that if I could just take that week off of work to “soul-search” and center myself, I think I’d come to love it. I think if I could not have to use hygiene products to keep it contained, I think I’d come to love it.

So, dear readers…

Ladies: Do you love or hate your period? If you love and embrace it or are working toward it, what steps are you taking? What advice do you have?

Fellows (if I haven’t lost you): Is there a lady in your life that revels in all that is woman? How does she do it?

 

The Obsession with Being Impolite

20 Jul

 

All cultures have a set of rules that dictates what are socially acceptable actions. Politeness has its own set of guidelines that can progress and change. They also often vary depending on the relationship of the people involved.

Being politely is personally very important, but I’ve found that isn’t the case with a lot of people. Americans are often thought of as rude and demanding, and it is obvious why, but I don’t understand the reasoning behind it. As far as I’m aware, you should say please when you are asking someone to do something, and thank them when they do. You should excuse yourself if you burp. You should open doors for people. If someone says something to you, you respond. Don’t interrupt someone when they are talking. It is also polite to smile when you see someone on the street, and ask people how they are, but that might be just because I’m from a small town.

All of those things are standard for our culture, but why do we refuse to partake? I know so many people who refuse to excuse themselves when they burp, because “everyone does it, and its a perfectly normal bodily function.” That’s true, but you don’t see me running around naked when I go to the grocery store. Please and thank you are even more standard, but people seem to forget them. Just because someone’s job is to bring you food or serve you drinks doesn’t mean that you should not say please. Honestly, they don’t haveto do anything for you. We do things like this because they are polite, and well…because you don’t want anyone to spit in your food.

I can’t figure out if its because we are a young country, and this just might be in the course of development, or if its really just Americans. Do we feel so entitled that we just think we don’t need to be polite? Is it the obsession with being different just so overwhelming that we can’t be polite?

Do you think being polite is important? Is being impolite an American thing, or do you think its the same everywhere? Why do you think people are so impolite?