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Choose Your Own Adventure: Gun Regulation

26 Sep

This post is inspired by this video:

http://www.upworthy.com/he-cried-and-begged-his-father-dont-do-it-daddy-dont-shoot-mommy-my-son-said-that?c=ufb1

Now I’ll admit fully that I didn’t watch the video. I would have, but I live in the boonies and my internet causes me to be unable to watch videos in a normal amount of time.

The title in itself, however, causes me to think a little more about gun control.

He cried and begged his father. Don’t do it Daddy. Don’t shoot Mommy!

This being followed by the description of the post on Facebook: “Some people told her she should have had a gun. Those people have never lived through this.”

From this alone, we say “Guns don’t kill people, people kill people.” Fair enough, I suppose.

So Dad comes home, what I assume to be an argument or disturbance occurs in front of little Johnny, and Dad pulls out a gun. His intention is to shoot Mom.

This choose your own adventure has two options:

1) Mom doesn’t have a gun and goes into the bedroom to shield her son from Dad.
2) Mom does have a gun, and pulls it on Dad.

Number 1 is actually what happened, and Dad proceeded to shoot through the door. That’s traumatizing for anyone involved. I know that I would be horrified whether I was the target or being the one shielded. It’s ESPECIALLY traumatizing for a child.

To prevent this ending to this adventure, we instead choose option 2. Instead of shielding little Johnny in a room and being shot at, Mom instead whips out her own gun. We will ignore the fact that Mom would more than likely not have the gun on her currently. So…Mom pulls out the gun and aims it at Dad. In any grace of the universe, Dad realizes the rashness of his actions and lowers his gun, defeated. Little Johnny may have been spared, but more than likely will still be traumatized at least slightly because Mommy just pulled a gun on Daddy. Was Daddy going to shoot Mommy? Was Mommy going to shoot Daddy? Or, because the universe is often harsh, Dad doesn’t drop the gun. Dad aims gun (or shoots). So Mom shoots. Now little Johnny sees his parents both shoot at each other. That is even more traumatizing. Now, the two people in his world who are supposed to love him and love each other and care for each other have made what appear to be attempts on each others lives. And who knows what the aftermath could look like. If both people are wounded, now they are just laying there bleeding, while little Johnny looks on. Or if one parent was unscathed and the other wounded, that parent grabs little Johnny and runs. But little Johnny is being ripped away from one parent by the parent that shot the other one.

Traumatic.

There is a third and fourth option. Dad doesn’t have a gun and neither does Mom. Or Dad doesn’t lose his shit. But neither of those is something we can control.

But “Gun control!” you say. “More mental health screening!” you say.

Unfortunately, Dad might not have a history of mental health issues or a criminal record. He may not have gotten his gun legally.

Here’s the thing: I’m okay with guns. I enjoy shooting. I think that we should do more screenings and background checks and regulate a little more who can own a gun. If Dad gets cleared to have a gun because he has no criminal record and no history of mental health issues, so be it. But if Dad has a history of mental health issues and is off his rocker, while having a criminal background also…no, he should not get a gun.

I think the biggest thing to control gun violence is to teach others about gun safety, and both the risks you assume in addition to the benefits owning a gun may provide. Teaching each other about mental health and the risks posed if someone appears to become depressed, or showing other tendencies while a gun is in the home.

Because Mommy having a gun doesn’t traumatize little Johnny any less. Mommy having a gun isn’t a solution. It’s just kind of like a band-aid to cover up a bigger issue that maybe Dad shouldn’t have had a gun.

What option do you choose for this Choose Your Own Adventure? 

The Scariest Thing in the World

8 Feb

Me? I’m scared of everything. I’m scared of what I saw, I’m scared of what I did, of who I am, and most of all I’m scared of walking out of this room and never feeling the rest of my whole life the way I feel when I’m with you.

 

I think Baby got it right when she said this in Dirty Dancing.

My future right now is so uncertain, in all aspects of my life – my job, housing, school…love. And with that uncertainty comes fear. I’m afraid. I hate not knowing whats to come because when I don’t know whats coming, I just imagine the worst.

That fear that she describes is a feeling of uncertainty and it’s one that I know too well. I hate it so much, and it runs so deep that it’s all-consuming. If someone told me right now, with absolution, that this fear was reality, I don’t know how I could bear it.

Whats the scariest thing in the world? Have you shares Baby’s fear?

Limiting Yourself

17 May

 

I’m somewhat new to the whole trying new things scene. I say somewhat, because if something needs to be done in an unfamiliar situation, I will take charge and go first. Growing up, though, I didn’t try new foods, and I was never much for change. Now, as I grow older, I see the people around me refusing to challenge themselves.

They just accept things. They limit themselves. And I don’t understand.

Maybe its because I like to be fearless. Maybe its because I don’t like to be weak. Maybe its because I don’t like to give up. Maybe its because I like to be better than everyone else. 

Regardless of what brings me to my opinion, I see people limiting themselves and I don’t like it, especially when it limits what I can do. When I go to an amusement park and want to enjoy rides with a friend, its upsetting when they refuse because they are scared. Its equally upsetting when I want to enjoy a movie with a friend, but all of my friends refuse because scary movies scare them. I admit that I often enjoy doing things solo, but I find that friends are important, and doing some events socially is also a very important part of my life. These people can never enjoy certain things because of their limits.

Don’t get me wrong. I’m sure I have limits too, but I don’t seem to think about them very readily.

What do you limit yourself with? How do you handle others phobias, and do you ever find that they limit you also? What new things would you like to try this summer?