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My Expectations, Revised

3 Sep

 

A while ago I posted about how people are always telling me to lower my expectations. After reading through a few comments, I decided to revise my list. Here is the new list:

1. Must be at least mildly attractive

2. Must have a life-long quest for knowledge, and the ability or desire to converse intelligently with me (and/or a degree)

3. Must have a good job and/or love their job or is working toward one and/or has a direction in life (see above)

4. Doesn’t smoke or do drugs

5. Drinks at most occasionally and does so responsibly

6. Must like animals

7. Must be sincere, honest, and deserving of my trust

Lowering My Expectations

23 Aug

 

One of the first things anyone says when they hear that I don’t have a boyfriend and have been single for three and a half years is that I need to lower my expectations (because apparently they are so outrageously high that no one can meet them). I was thinking about this exact statement after my mom used it, and decided to put this to my readers. Here is a list of my expectations:

1. Must be at least mildly attractive

2. Must have a degree or is working toward one

3. Must have a good job or is working toward one and/or has a direction in life (see above)

4. Doesn’t smoke or do drugs

5. Drinks at most occasionally and does so responsibly

This is, of course, in addition to things that actually make a relationship work. I’d also like to have similar interests and the time spent together to be enjoyable, but I think everyone wants those things.

Are my expectations too high? If so, how should I lower them? What are your expectations for a significant other?