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Musings of a Perpetually Single 25 Year Old

9 May

While taking a nice hot shower this afternoon (I couldn’t get warm any other way), my thoughts drifted to my recently engaged chiropractor. His new fiance shares my name, which made me wonder how old she is. I know he is in his early 30s, but have no reason to actually know how old she is.

That took my thoughts to the other newly weds I know…all of whom are in their early 30s. Suddenly, for the first time, 25 felt really young to be married.

With the wedding of my best friend quickly nearing, thinking about her getting married makes me even feel like we are young. Then, I thought about her having kids, and how it would change everything.

My mind quickly went to another good friend who is having a baby in just about a month. Everything about our friendship is going to change the second that baby comes out. She is the first person I actually hang out with who will be having a baby.

The last time I had a major life change I think was when I started college out of high school, and that feels like forever ago! I’m not ready for another major life change. I like my life. And having friends with no kids.

And to think, I had a mini-crisis when I turned 22 and didn’t have a boyfriend in sight, let alone a husband (23 was my original age I wanted to be married by).

Any major life changes going on? Are you still riding the single wave like I am, or are you on couples isle? Kids? 

The Pressure to Marry

19 Aug

 

My parents live 4 hours away from me, and because of college and working I rarely am able to see them. Yesterday, however, they came and visited me and left this evening.

At one point in a conversation with my mother, I mentioned someone’s husband. Bad choice. Her immediate response was “You need to start looking for one.”

*facepalm*

Of course, all the talk of getting a boyfriend and looking for one ensued. I really think expectations are highly influenced by her marriage to my father at age 19, and my sister’s marriage to her husband at 23. I turn 23 in November, with not a boyfriend in sight. I can’t say that I really am too effected by it, because many, many vet students get their spouses in vet school.

What kind of pressure do your parents put on you to get married? Do you get pressure from anywhere else? How do you handle it?