30 Days of Online Dating: Day 20

If there is one thing I’ve learned about this online dating thing…it’s that you can’t really be passive about it. I’ve been going through this “speed date” game everyday, checking my viewers, and hoping for a match or for a nice fellow to message me.

And I’m doing it all wrong.

While I may not be able to do this offline and face-to-face, it’s time to take control. I’ve decided to start messaging a portion of the men I’m interested in, and who knows? Maybe it’ll rub off onto my offline dating (yeah…right!).

Messages Sent: 1
Messages Received: 0
Conversations: 0

About the guy: he loves cats, hates the snow/love dry heat, liberal and an athiest, adorable hair, a decent picture, loves movies and cooking, same age as me
His date: Go to a restaurant neither of us have been to and then go to a movie neither of us would be caught dead in.
My reservations: none, actually…well…I guess his profile technically says he wants kids some day…

Intrigued by: 3 
Mutual Intrigues: 0

Things learned (general): I haven’t really learned it, but I’ve decided that if your profile picture is of anything other than yourself, and you don’t have any pictures of yourself, you must be unattractive and/or very self-conscious about it; how to write a good “first message” (and I’m kind of ashamed I had to Google it…); apparently you can reach “the end” of the guys…
Things learned about myself: 
Something I challenged myself to do: post more date ideas

Most bizarre/shocking: I didn’t think I’d ever look at a picture on someone’s profile and think in my head “are you a…magician???”

 

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30 Days of Online Dating: Day 19 (I’m Back!)

I deeply apologize to all of my readers who were following my blog when I suddenly fell off the planet.

Day 9 I spent cleaning my house to prepare for a holiday party I was hosting the next day.
Day 10 was spent at the holiday party (you’ll see a blog from that next).
Days 11-17 were spent without internet, and its quite difficult to online date and blog when you have no internet. I could’ve done it on my lunch break on my computer at work, buttttttt I’d rather not have that stuff on the history there.
Day 18 I got my internet back, but I spent the evening at the work holiday party.

So here I am! I’m back, and I have absolutely nothing to report. It’s actually a little sad. No messages, nobody looking at my profile (well…there was this one guy…but we won’t go there), and it doesn’t appear I have any speed date interest either.

Okay. I checked again JUST for you, dear readers, and this guy I messaged first who has an adorable baby goat in his picture and who is also really attractive looked at my profile, but I never got a response from him. My guess is that he doesn’t actually pay for the site, which makes it even more difficult to use. Too bad, though, because he is a cutie!

Messages Sent: 0
Messages Received: 0
Conversations: 0

Intrigued by: 9 (one of which who sounds pretty cool, but has terrible hair – he will henceforth be known as “terrible hair guy” and another guy who not only doesn’t want kids, but is in vet school)
Mutual Intrigues: 0

Things learned (general): this website is such a great idea, if only it was a more popular site
Things learned about myself: If a potential match has filled out the “Has a weakness for girls who…” with something that doesn’t match me, I’m much less likely to click “intrigued” (so far tonight: blondes, dark hair with blue eyes..);
Something I challenged myself to do: n/a

Most bizarre/shocking:  pimpskater is 31, has a picture of him on a skateboard, and wants to “go to a park and chill” (man-child, anyone?); lurch wants to cuddle, spelled “field” incorrectly, and used “aint” in his profile

 

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30 Days of Online Dating: Day 8

This is a busy week for me, so I’m hoping come Wednesday/Friday I’ll be a little more active and have a little more to report. I have, however, pushed myself to interact with the website at least once every day, regardless of what else is going on.

It does seem that a lot of you…and I mean a LOT…seem to think very highly of OKCupid. I don’t think I can juggle more than one dating site at a time, so keep an eye out for 30 Days of Online Dating, Part Deux when my HowAboutWe subscription is up.

And thanks to one loyal reader, I found this little gem: http://www.puzzele.com/datingsite/index.php

I would think that if there is ChristianMingle, BlackPeopleMeet, FarmersOnly, and a host of others, you would think that there would be a credible niche dating site for those who don’t want children. I’m not that rare of a breed, am I? Does this mean I’m going to die alone? Probably.

In case you’re wondering on my stats, I’m “intrigued” on 4 fellas today. No word from mister New Mexico, so I guess unless I call him that ship sailed.

So, dearest readers, until tomorrow…I bid you adieu.

What should me dating style be…more dates or more “compatibility”?

30 Days of Online Dating: Day 7

It has been one week since I began my online dating adventure. And a dull one it has been. I have pretty much nothing to report, other than I’m growing tired of this whole business. I had hoped the new profile picture might make a difference, but so far, nothing.

Messages Sent: 0
Messages Received: 0
Conversations: 0

Intrigued by: 4
Mutual Intrigues: 0

Things learned (general): this website might not be the right one for me…; extremely attractive and highly intelligent appear to be mutually exclusive
Things learned about myself: I’m not a very patient person sometimes
Something I challenged myself to do: n/a

Most bizarre/shocking:  I thought I found two profiles with the same picture, and completely different information…turns out both guys were just cute and had similar pictures

 

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30 Days of Online Dating: Day 6

Finally, an interesting day! Mister flux capacitor messaged me back. Unfortunately, New Mexico is a permanent move (as permanent as moves in your 20’s can be).

Messages Sent: 1
Messages Received: 1
Conversations: 1

What we talked about: He said I didn’t have enough pictures on my profile. And then mentioned something about his neighbors hyperglycemic horses. He also mentioned a road trip, but I should probably not road trip with a stranger. (Right? Is that safe? I’m really bad at this because it sounds both terrible and really fun at the same time.) And then he wants to talk on the phone, and me to post pictures with animals *double swoon*

About the guy: 26, Environmental Engineer with a masters, 6’4″ *swoon*,  he says his perfect Sunday ends with “nuzzling with a honey badger”, secretly wants to be “a flux capacitor”
His date: How about we…Skype
My reservations: He lives in New Mexico :(

…and I don’t have fast enough internet to Skype…

Intrigued by: 15
Mutual Intrigues: 0

Things learned (general): a LOT of people want to go hiking (is that a Colorado thing???)
Things learned about myself: I feel really uncomfortable when strangers show interest in me; talking on the phone to a stranger is a terrifying concept; I already feel bored and maybe jaded with this whole process…I mean, I know I’ve always been one for instant gratification, but I thought I’d have at least a couple more messages by now…
Something I challenged myself to do: tell someone their picture is “cute” (this super adorable guy from Aurora that I really wish was closer)

Most bizarre/shocking:  jmthree writes how about we…”drive to Vegas and elope.” I don’t think I even need to elaborate on how bizarre that is…; found at least a couple people who aren’t in ANY of the pictures on their profile; jacklicious writes I have a weakness for girls who..”are perfect.” Um…really? Really really?? Good luck with that…

 

I’m going to be honest with you, dearest readers. I totally hit “intrigued” on jacklicious. Tall, dark, and handsome apparently got the best of me this time.

 

Oh…and I updated my profile picture. It’s amazing how much more pressure you feel about your dating profile picture versus your Facebook profile picture.

 

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30 Days of Online Dating: Day 5

I did even less today with the online dating thing than I did yesterday. It was “date night” with a friend of mine, so we’ve been hanging out since I got off work. I do have something exciting to report (kind of).

I got “asked out” on my first date! Granted…well..I guess you’ll see…

Messages Sent: 1
Messages Received: 0
Conversations: 0

About the guy: 26, Environmental Engineer with a masters, 6’4″ *swoon*,  he says his perfect Sunday ends with “nuzzling with a honey badger”, secretly wants to be “a flux capacitor”
His date: How about we…Skype
My reservations: He lives in New Mexico :(

…and I don’t have fast enough internet to Skype…

Intrigued by: 1
Mutual Intrigues: 0

Things learned (general): the heart button might mean that you “liked” them on “speed dating”?, apparently the best matches live in different states
Things learned about myself: location is important
Something I challenged myself to do: tell someone their picture is “cute” (this super adorable guy from Aurora that I really wish was closer)

Most bizarre/shocking: that “the guy” put nuzzling with a honey badger and wanting to be a flux capacitor on his profile (I did thoroughly enjoy reading his profile though)

 

That’s it for now.  Who wants to make bets on if NM man will actually message back?

 

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30 Days of Online Dating: Day 4

Not a lot going on in the internet dating world today. I did have an interesting little conversation with a coworker today. Went a little something like this:

Her: Please be safe when you’re going on these dates. You’re really bad at that.
Me: …I *am* really bad at that…
Her: You should run each date by a friend so they can tell you if it is safe or not. “Lets meet in a dark alley way”…probably not a good idea

And it is painfully true. Skinny dipping, driving into the mountains, going to his house to play video games…they all sound so much better than classic first dates in public places.

I’m actually already a little bored, but still trying to decide the best way to use this website. I could either choose matches based solely on the date (This date sounds fun, who cares if they are conservative, Christian, and want children???) or I could actually just use it like any other dating site and ignore the date (Christian, conservative, wants kids…not for me!).

Oh…and that guy I messaged yesterday didn’t message back…

Messages Sent: 1
Messages Received: 0
Conversations: 0

About the guy: 27 and local, has a goat (I think..possibly a sheep) in his profile picture, cute…no other information…
His date: How about we…create our own Willy Wonka adventure: Grab hot chocolates and then keep hitting up candy stores till we lapse into a sugar coma
My reservations: I know absolutely nothing about him, other than he probably works in some farm capacity, so he could be a terrible match (but the date sounds super fun!)

Intrigued by: 4
Mutual Intrigues: 0

Things learned (general): if you look at someones profile, it doesn’t change the day you looked in the “viewers” page, but you DO get an email; either I have different views of what “exercising” is, people are all lying, or I’m one lazy ass motherfucker…pretty much everyone has “often” for how frequently they exercise; it is frustrating when you click on a guys profile and he hasn’t filled out any information
Things learned about myself: abs are super intimidating; I’m a sucker for any guy with a picture that shows he has a cat (but not so much dogs); I want to ask every person who wants kids “some day” how important that is to them
Something I challenged myself to do: message someone who isn’t a “mutual” intrigue

Most bizarre/shocking: hotfaslzih has a picture of John Cusack as his profile picture, and occupation is listed as “baby mama”…

 

 

Any thoughts on how I should approach this date-based vs. not-date-based conundrum? Sound off in the comments!

 

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