If there is one thing I’ve learned about this online dating thing…it’s that you can’t really be passive about it. I’ve been going through this “speed date” game everyday, checking my viewers, and hoping for a match or for a nice fellow to message me.
And I’m doing it all wrong.
While I may not be able to do this offline and face-to-face, it’s time to take control. I’ve decided to start messaging a portion of the men I’m interested in, and who knows? Maybe it’ll rub off onto my offline dating (yeah…right!).
Messages Sent: 1
Messages Received: 0
Conversations: 0
About the guy: he loves cats, hates the snow/love dry heat, liberal and an athiest, adorable hair, a decent picture, loves movies and cooking, same age as me
His date: Go to a restaurant neither of us have been to and then go to a movie neither of us would be caught dead in.
My reservations: none, actually…well…I guess his profile technically says he wants kids some day…
Intrigued by: 3
Mutual Intrigues: 0
Things learned (general): I haven’t really learned it, but I’ve decided that if your profile picture is of anything other than yourself, and you don’t have any pictures of yourself, you must be unattractive and/or very self-conscious about it; how to write a good “first message” (and I’m kind of ashamed I had to Google it…); apparently you can reach “the end” of the guys…
Things learned about myself:
Something I challenged myself to do: post more date ideas
Most bizarre/shocking: I didn’t think I’d ever look at a picture on someone’s profile and think in my head “are you a…magician???”
Want to follow my dating excursion? Go here to begin the journey:30 Days of Online Dating