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The Pure Joy Brought on by the KonMari Method of Tidying

8 Jan

“Every object has a different role to play…It is the same with people. Not every person you meet in life will become a close friend or lover. Some you will find hard to get along with or impossible to like. But these people, too, teach you the precious lesson of who you do like, so that you will appreciate those special people even more.”


“To me it doesn’t seem right to keep clothes we don’t enjoy for relaxing around the house. This time at home is still a precious part of living. It’s value should not change just because nobody sees us…Precisely because no one is there to see you, it makes far more sense to reinforce a positive self-image by wearing clothes you love…If sweatpants are your everyday attire, you’ll end up looking like you belong in them, which is not very attractive. What you wear in the house does impact your self-image.”


“It is not our memories but the person we have become because of those past experiences that we should treasure. This is the lesson these keepsakes teach us when we sort them. The space in which we live should be for the person we are becoming now, not for the person we were in the past. “

 

Those are just a few quotes that I really connected to while reading The Life Changing Magic of Tidying Up by Marie Kondo. Really, I connected with the entire book and it was beautiful.

The discarding part I connected to more, and it got me much more excited than the organizing section. When she talks about organizing, she just sounds crazy, but I also feel like the set-up of my home is much different than the Japanese homes she continually references.

While I’m not skeptical of whether or not her method works (I’m completely sold, actually), I can’t help but wonder about the one thing she didn’t seem to mention: functional items that you actually use regularly. Of course, we have to keep toilet paper around regardless of if it doesn’t “spark joy” in our lives, but every time I open my cupboard I can’t help but wonder about my “spare dishes”. Yes, I have just about 56 muffin tins and could get rid of 54 of them, but my glassware poses a problem.

For Christmas, my mother gave me a new set of dishes, and they are absolutely wonderful. Every time I simply look at them I get all giddy and excited. I decided to use them only when I have people over or formal dinners, though, so I kept my old dish set around for every day use. That way I won’t break one and end up with an odd set. I also entertain for more than 4 people quite frequently, so I need the extra glasses and plates.

I plan on beginning the journey once I finish unpacking, and, as always, will keep you up-to-date on my progress!

Have you read this book? Are you planning on reading it? What do you think about the dishes – do I keep them because I use them, or toss them because they don’t “spark joy”? How do you feel about the quotes I pulled from Kondo’s book?

How to Better Deal with Criticism

4 Oct

If there is one skill that you have in your arsenal for dealing with people both professionally and personally it should definitely be an ability to handle criticism with grace.

It’s human nature to get irritate, angry, mad, or even furious if someone is critical of you, albeit constructive or otherwise. We naturally think the way we do things is the best way, and when someone tells us we aren’t the best, well…it makes us mad.

The best way to handle criticism is to first calm yourself. By realizing you have become angry, you can better calm yourself down in order to think about the criticism itself – not that someone criticized you. Once you are calm, you should take a moment to understand that no one is perfect, and that this could be an opportunity to improve yourself.

Once you are calm, think about what the criticism was about. Did the other person have a point? Was it something you could actually improve? The likely answer to both of those questions is yes. If this is the case, it will ease both parties if you thank them for their criticism. They could have not said anything and seethed privately and you wouldn’t have had any opportunity to improve. Once you thank them and tell them they had a point, you might choose to elaborate on why you chose to do something the way you did, but be careful to not be defensive. If you think you will sound defensive, then it might be better to not say anything at all. Remember: stay calm and don’t be angry or respond in anger.

Once you have acknowledge the criticism at hand, make improvements. The person dealing out the criticism likely had a reason. But don’t dwell on the criticism…let it go. It’s more than likely that the other person didn’t mean any harm.

What do you do to handle criticism gracefully? I always try to, but often I fail and internalize it – any suggestions? 

Thoughts on Body Hair

22 Jul

For quite a while I was very against body hair. I’ll blame it on my youth – when you’re 14, body hair doesn’t seem normal.

I’m still very much against hair on my own body. I made a comment recently that if I could get rid of all of the hair on my body, I totally would. Keep in mind this excludes hair on my head and my eyebrows/eyelashes.

Someone replied saying that you don’t get to choose, and so I would actually not have any hair, and not having any hair is horrible.

Well, last time I checked, wishes don’t really come true, tricky genies don’t exist, and I can choose which areas of my body I can get laser hair removal on.

So, yes. I would remove all of my body hair. Permanently.

On other people, however, I’ve found that I don’t really have an opinion on their body hair (back hair is what I feel most strongly about, but definitely not as strongly as I used to). As long as men are well-groomed, it’s fine (there is a limit, but I really only know it when I see it). Women – not my business.

And as a side note, while I’ve never seen it, apparently shoulder hair exists.

How do you feel about body hair? On yourself? Your significant other? When is it too much? Too little? What are some dos and don’ts of grooming and body hair?