Your Support Appreciated!

28 Jul

Hello everyone,

First and foremost…thank you for your continued support. You may be a loyal reader, you may be a new reader, you might be supporting my Annie’s jewelry business, or Two Tails Behavior Consultation. All of those things mean so much to me, because without you and your support, I couldn’t do half of what I’ve been able to accomplish.

Second, I come to you with a request. Anytime you make efforts to grow, you’ll eventually outgrow where you were, and need to expand. I’m facing something similar. Kind of.

With Two Tails Behavior Consultation up and running, I need a reliable mode of transportation. My coverage area is extremely large and covers all of Colorado west of the Rockies. As many people do, I also commute for my a full-time job about 30 miles. Unfortunately, my car has entered the “unreliable” stage of its life, but alas, I have no money for a down payment and can’t afford a car payment otherwise. I’ve bounced around from used car to used car since I got my license, and they’ve done well enough, but it is time for something that gives me a little longer before I have to put major money into it.

Here is where you come in.

After going back and forth between if I should or shouldn’t, I’ve decided to begin a GoFundMe to see if I can garner the support to buy a new car so that hopefully, tomorrow, I’ll be in a better place than I am today.

Now I know that many of us are all in the same boat, so I understand if you can’t make a donation. But even if you can’t, I would be absolutely honored if you could share my “campaign” to your Facebook, Twitter, WordPress….anything.

Again, thank you so much for all of your continued support. It means so much to me!

Find my campaign here (you can also share this link): gofund.me/2grfuuc

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My New Business (#2)

27 Jul

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Now that everything is up and running, I can make my grand reveal to those of you who aren’t in my close circle who’ve seen me toiling away day and night.

I’ve officially opened my new (2nd) business!

Right now, jewelry is my big seller. I also have candles in the unique scents you’ve never heard of before: “Help Me Hide the Body”, “Jack Horner’s Orgasm”, “I Just Cleaned My Bathroom”, and the ever-so-popular “Sugar Tits”.

By popular demand, I’m now selling “Life Savers” (pictures above) that go in your purse or in your backpack (or on your dog’s leash – coming soon!) to keep everything organized, nice, and neat in one spot. They have SO many ways you can customize them, too!

Eventually, I also hope to be able to sell a variety of costume items, because we all know I have a passion for that.

So thank you for sticking around while I’ve been absent, but please…go check out my Etsy page www.etsy.com/shop/AnniesColorado

And “like” me on Facebook

Your support means so much to me! Thanks for reading and for visiting!

Don’t Be a Victim: An Ode to Personal Responsibility

25 Jul

Let’s talk about a dicey subject.

Victim shaming.

Often considered an integral piece of rape culture,  victim shaming is generally known as any behavior, attitude, or stance that places blame on the victim for the incident or causes the victim to feel ashamed of his or her actions secondary to blaming the incident on the victim’s actions. As a part of rape culture, statements such as “she shouldn’t have been wearing that” or “she shouldn’t have drank that much” are common ways to propogate feelings of rape being a result of a woman’s actions, instead of that of a man’s (I’m using these particular pronouns because of the statistical frequency of rape to particular genders, however, I do very much acknowledge the presence of rape of men by men or by women – I’m not forgetting you fellas, I promise!).

It is important that we help to eliminate this brand of propogation of rape culture by teaching men and women what consent is and means and understanding that blaming anyone but the perpetrator is not okay.

I have, however, seen a lot of social media coverage of things that are basically telling anyone to throw caution to the wind. Run naked and drunk through that dark alley into that windowless van, young girl! Rape isn’t your fault!

Well, no. Rape isn’t your fault, and I do not want anyone thinking that I am suggesting that. I’m going to continue to use this scenario for explanatory purposes. If you do, in fact, run naked and drunk through a dark alley in a windowless van, this is not an excuse to rape you. It is not a reason to rape you. You should not be raped in this situation, or ever. (It is an excuse to provide you with a warm blanket, and probably call the police because a safe place for you to go is needed.) I am also not, in any way, attempting to make any person feel ashamed of whatever experiences they have been or will go through.

BUT…(yes, there is a but)…don’t be a victim.

A dark alley probably isn’t a great place to walk, regardless of your gender, how you are dressed, or your degree of sobriety. Getting into a strangers vehicle is not a great idea regardless of your gender, how you are dressed, or your degree of sobriety. Doing these things while drunk and naked is an even worse idea regardless of your gender or how you are dressed.

These things are unneccessary risks, especially in combination.

What it all comes down to is this:

The only person responsible for you…is you.

Please. Take personal responsibility for yourself. Be accountable for your actions. Be safe.

I recently saw a social media post about a girl who got hit by a car because she was playing Pokemon GO explaining that it was the game’s fault. There is no personal responsibility in that statement. It is terrible that she got hit by a car, and we would all hope that the driver in that situation was paying attention and had enough time to come to a complete stop without hitting the girl, but the fact of the matter is that this girl needs to understand that in the future, she should decrease the risk level she is taking by being more proactive in her own environment.

If you have done an acceptable degree of prevention, whatever the incident, and the incident still occurs, then at the very least you can say I did my part. It isn’t my fault. Because the last thing anyone wants to feel is that feeling of maybe I could have done this differently, or this, or that…The less someone has to face these feelings after a rape, the closer they are to healing.

We can tell everyone all the time from a young age until we are blue in the face that “no means no” or “lack of communiction is not consent” but just as it is with anything, variation in the human element means that rape will always happen. It is a lonely world out there, and I can only hope that there is someone out there that cares about you, but at the end of the day, we are all selfish human beings with our own needs to take care of.

That’s okay. We also try to be decent humans to each other and support each others interests.

But if you aren’t being responsible, there is no guarantee that someone else will be responsible. Empower yourself. Take the precautions needed when you need to take them. It’s okay.

What do you think of personal responsibility? What is something that you do to take charge when you’re feeling unsafe in your environment?

When I’m MIA – A Life Update

20 Jun

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Lovely readers,

I want to thank you for being patient with me. I’ve recently discovered that anytime I’m doing something exciting with my life, I want to post but I can’t bring myself to.

So…I haven’t posted in awhile, and I apologize! BUT…

It is because I started my own business, and will soon be revealing my other. Those of you who are friends with my on Facebook know of this already, but I wanted to put this out for the rest of the world, too.

Business numero uno is called Two Tails Behavior Consultation and it is a behavior and training business primarily for cats. Working in my field, I see so many cats with problems that have solutions, but people don’t know how to implement them. That is where I want to help. You can find my website here.

At this point, I am basically servicing all of Colorado East of the continental divide. If you have friends in Colorado, or you’re in Colorado, share, share, share! I want this business to take off, and I can’t do that without your help. You can also check me out on Facebook here.

Next, I’m beginning a business called Annie’s which is where I’m going to sell homemade costumes, jewelry, accessories, and a variety of other things. I’m hoping that this will help me find a good balance between the scientific and the creative process. I’vve had my first event (didn’t sell anything, unfortunately) and my official grand opening will be in early to mid-July. Neither Facebook nor the website are live yet, but stay tuned for updates.

One last thing…

I want to thank you all for being supportive of me in any of my endeavors. Even if you’re silently reading (you lurker, you!), you’re still reading, and I appreciate it!

I hope to get back to my usual posting soon. Probably something political, with the way the presidential race is happening!

High Hopes for the New Year: Update, Helping Those in Need

27 Mar

Back just a few months ago, when everyone was making New Year’s Resolutions, I posted a blog called “High Hopes for the New Year“. So far, so good.

Here is the update of what I’ve collected so far. It doesn’t look (or feel) like much, but the goal isn’t to save the world. The goal is to inspire others, and to even help a little bit. Something, after all, is better than nothing.

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The items I’ve collected, January – March:

  • Pads
  • Socks
  • Tampons
  • Razors
  • Instant Mashed Potatoes
  • Brown Gravy (2)
  • Lipton Noodle Soup
  • Hormel Compleats Smokey Bacon Parmesan Rigatoni
  • Motts Cinnamon Apple Sauce
  • Brown Rice
  • Canned Mandarin Oranges
  • Canned Cut Green Beans
  • Canned Sliced Peaches
  • Campbells Vegetable Soup
  • Chef Boyardee Beefaroni

That is 15 items, representing 15 trips to the store over 3 months. That is 5 trips per month to the grocery store. By the end of the year, that will equal 60 items.

I would still love to have someone join me! The rules are simple: 1) items have to be generally non-perishable, 2) you have to buy something each time you go to the grocery store, 3) items don’t need to be large or extravagent

 

Real Talk: I REALLY Want to Love My Period

26 Mar

Okay folks, we are about to get down and dirty and really gross in here. And I mean REALLY. I understand if you choose not to read, but real talk is what I’m looking at, so here we go!

According to the internet, there seems to be a lot of stigma about periods. I don’t really abide by anyone’s rules, though, and will openly talk about periods with anyone. To remove the stigma, some people want to tell you that periods aren’t “gross” but “natural”. I, on the other hand, am here to tell you that no..periods are really disgusting. You know what else is natural? Poop. Pee. Bloody noses. Just because these things are natural it does not make them any less gross. If you poop your pants, change that shit. (No pun intended.) If you pee on yourself, please…don’t just walk around with a pee mark on your pants. And I fully expect that if you have a bloody nose, you stop it and clean yourself up.

I, honestly, have no idea why periods would be any different.

Gross alert: If you have followed my blog for any length of time, you probably know how opposed I am to pubic hair (and just general body hair). If you want a full set of pubes, by all means…go ahead! I will not be joining you. I saw a post just a few days ago talking about how we treat our pubic hair, and how there is a desire to look “pre-pubescent”. Listen, it isn’t about that! Hair usually serves a purpose, and we always say that pubic hair serves to keep gross stuff out (like nose hair), but it is also really gross. It is subject to all of your bodily functions, and here is where it gets real: If you wear a tampon and you leak or you wear a pad (which I can’t even think about how this is possible) and you have pubic hair it is going to stick around! It sticks together, and don’t even get me started on if you throw a clot. Then, you can either hope to get some of it out, shower immediately, or maybe you even have cleansing wipes/products for this exact situation. This is DISGUSTING. So, here we illustrate two things that are dear to me: 1) Periods are disgusting and 2) pubic hair is disgusting.

 

Now that we have that straightened out, and everyone can breathe again…

 

With all that talk and “gross” factor of periods, they are still very natural. The thought of being on any sort of birth control that stops such a natural process legitimately concerns me, even though I hate them. Periods are also something womanhood shares across ages and cultures, and sharing this kind of connection…well…makes you feel connected to your fellow woman. Just yesterday I had to ask strangers not once, but twice, for a tampon. Women can commiserate and revel that we are woman, and we are all connected.

This brings me to my point: I really, really want to love my period.

Every time it comes around, I want to be able to say I am healthy, I am woman, I am remarkable…THANK you mother nature for giving me this gift.

But I struggle…after all, it serves a purpose that I am not connected to (procreation) and again, it is really gross, uncomfortable, and inconvenient. I think that if I could just take that week off of work to “soul-search” and center myself, I think I’d come to love it. I think if I could not have to use hygiene products to keep it contained, I think I’d come to love it.

So, dear readers…

Ladies: Do you love or hate your period? If you love and embrace it or are working toward it, what steps are you taking? What advice do you have?

Fellows (if I haven’t lost you): Is there a lady in your life that revels in all that is woman? How does she do it?

 

Aside 5 Mar

Confession time:

I want to walk into a house and instantly feel an overwhelmingly ominous presence (because it’s haunted).