Archive | July, 2016

Black Cat, Blue Sea Award

29 Jul

I was nominated by Lynn B for the Black Cat, Blue Sea Award.

I’m so grateful that as far as I’ve been and come, that I have such loyal readers and followers to nominate me and think of me in such a way! Lynn is one of the top contributors to my blog, and is extremely supportive in every way! I’m so appreciative.

The rules are very much simple:

•Anybody nominated can nominate up to seven other bloggers.

•Anybody nominated answers three questions. The questions you ask while nominating can be any three questions. If any of the questions asked are offending or simply do not want to be answered, the nominee does not have to answer them to earn the award.

 

Without further ado…

 

1. Do you have any tattoos? If so, what are they of? If you do not but want one, what do you want and why? If you don’t have nor want tattoos, why not?

I do not currently have any tattoos, but I have several on my list of things that I want. The struggle has been two-fold…one being finding a place on my body that I like that the tattoo will look good, but also affording the said tattoo. My first tattoo I want to be a rememberance of my father, so I want a red/yellow/orange watercolor phoenix on my foot, with splatters of blue throughout (blue was his favorite color). In the outline of the bird, I want the words “give ’em hell, Annie” written becasue that is what he would always tell me when I was fired up about something. I also really want tattoos on my wrist of the Alice in wonderland bottle that says “drink me” and the cookies that say “eat me” because Alice in Wonderland is a book and translations that I love and are very close to who I am. I also kind of want a tiny tattoo that is symbolic of being a valkyrie to keep me grounded while I do my job and remind me of all the tough decisions I’ve had to make.

2. If you had three wishes, what would they be?

This question is always so difficult, because I would love to wish for abstract things. Being the logical person I am, though, I know that the consequences of such abstract ideas of “happiness” are probably not worth it.

So,  I think I will say my first wish would be money, because as you all should know by now, it is something that I struggle with, but with a vast enough amount of money, not only would I be able to get where I need to be to feel secure (car, house, paying off debt…that is really all I want), I could also ensure that my family was secure, and my close friends.

My second wish would be good health mentally and physically, because try as I might to be healthy, I know I fall short.

My third wish would be…probably that (having money already taken care of, however that looks) I had more time to do hobbies and hang out with friends and family.

3. What is your favorite musical group and/or song?

My taste in music is so diverse, that I have 3 favorite bands all tied for 1st. Those are Blink-182, Eminem, and Disturbed. All of my songs really change, but my favorite Blink songs are probably First Date, All the Small Things, and Bored to Death. My favorite Eminem Songs are probably Rock Bottom, Lose Yourself, and…I don’t even know. But those two definitely. My favorite Disturbed songs are probably Down with the Sickness, 10,000 Fists in the Air, and I really like that cover they did recently…Sound of Silence?

 

With that, I’m going to go ahead and nominate just two folks who are very dedicated to their posts (much moreso than I).

Buddy71

QuirkyIntrovert

 

And my questions are…

  1. Why do you write, and what keeps you writing?
  2. Other than writing and the focus of your blogs, what are you passionate about?
  3. Do you believe in bigfoot/sasquatch/yeti/etc. and why or why not?

Your Support Appreciated!

28 Jul

Hello everyone,

First and foremost…thank you for your continued support. You may be a loyal reader, you may be a new reader, you might be supporting my Annie’s jewelry business, or Two Tails Behavior Consultation. All of those things mean so much to me, because without you and your support, I couldn’t do half of what I’ve been able to accomplish.

Second, I come to you with a request. Anytime you make efforts to grow, you’ll eventually outgrow where you were, and need to expand. I’m facing something similar. Kind of.

With Two Tails Behavior Consultation up and running, I need a reliable mode of transportation. My coverage area is extremely large and covers all of Colorado west of the Rockies. As many people do, I also commute for my a full-time job about 30 miles. Unfortunately, my car has entered the “unreliable” stage of its life, but alas, I have no money for a down payment and can’t afford a car payment otherwise. I’ve bounced around from used car to used car since I got my license, and they’ve done well enough, but it is time for something that gives me a little longer before I have to put major money into it.

Here is where you come in.

After going back and forth between if I should or shouldn’t, I’ve decided to begin a GoFundMe to see if I can garner the support to buy a new car so that hopefully, tomorrow, I’ll be in a better place than I am today.

Now I know that many of us are all in the same boat, so I understand if you can’t make a donation. But even if you can’t, I would be absolutely honored if you could share my “campaign” to your Facebook, Twitter, WordPress….anything.

Again, thank you so much for all of your continued support. It means so much to me!

Find my campaign here (you can also share this link): gofund.me/2grfuuc

My New Business (#2)

27 Jul

life saver facebook

Now that everything is up and running, I can make my grand reveal to those of you who aren’t in my close circle who’ve seen me toiling away day and night.

I’ve officially opened my new (2nd) business!

Right now, jewelry is my big seller. I also have candles in the unique scents you’ve never heard of before: “Help Me Hide the Body”, “Jack Horner’s Orgasm”, “I Just Cleaned My Bathroom”, and the ever-so-popular “Sugar Tits”.

By popular demand, I’m now selling “Life Savers” (pictures above) that go in your purse or in your backpack (or on your dog’s leash – coming soon!) to keep everything organized, nice, and neat in one spot. They have SO many ways you can customize them, too!

Eventually, I also hope to be able to sell a variety of costume items, because we all know I have a passion for that.

So thank you for sticking around while I’ve been absent, but please…go check out my Etsy page www.etsy.com/shop/AnniesColorado

And “like” me on Facebook

Your support means so much to me! Thanks for reading and for visiting!

Don’t Be a Victim: An Ode to Personal Responsibility

25 Jul

Let’s talk about a dicey subject.

Victim shaming.

Often considered an integral piece of rape culture,  victim shaming is generally known as any behavior, attitude, or stance that places blame on the victim for the incident or causes the victim to feel ashamed of his or her actions secondary to blaming the incident on the victim’s actions. As a part of rape culture, statements such as “she shouldn’t have been wearing that” or “she shouldn’t have drank that much” are common ways to propogate feelings of rape being a result of a woman’s actions, instead of that of a man’s (I’m using these particular pronouns because of the statistical frequency of rape to particular genders, however, I do very much acknowledge the presence of rape of men by men or by women – I’m not forgetting you fellas, I promise!).

It is important that we help to eliminate this brand of propogation of rape culture by teaching men and women what consent is and means and understanding that blaming anyone but the perpetrator is not okay.

I have, however, seen a lot of social media coverage of things that are basically telling anyone to throw caution to the wind. Run naked and drunk through that dark alley into that windowless van, young girl! Rape isn’t your fault!

Well, no. Rape isn’t your fault, and I do not want anyone thinking that I am suggesting that. I’m going to continue to use this scenario for explanatory purposes. If you do, in fact, run naked and drunk through a dark alley in a windowless van, this is not an excuse to rape you. It is not a reason to rape you. You should not be raped in this situation, or ever. (It is an excuse to provide you with a warm blanket, and probably call the police because a safe place for you to go is needed.) I am also not, in any way, attempting to make any person feel ashamed of whatever experiences they have been or will go through.

BUT…(yes, there is a but)…don’t be a victim.

A dark alley probably isn’t a great place to walk, regardless of your gender, how you are dressed, or your degree of sobriety. Getting into a strangers vehicle is not a great idea regardless of your gender, how you are dressed, or your degree of sobriety. Doing these things while drunk and naked is an even worse idea regardless of your gender or how you are dressed.

These things are unneccessary risks, especially in combination.

What it all comes down to is this:

The only person responsible for you…is you.

Please. Take personal responsibility for yourself. Be accountable for your actions. Be safe.

I recently saw a social media post about a girl who got hit by a car because she was playing Pokemon GO explaining that it was the game’s fault. There is no personal responsibility in that statement. It is terrible that she got hit by a car, and we would all hope that the driver in that situation was paying attention and had enough time to come to a complete stop without hitting the girl, but the fact of the matter is that this girl needs to understand that in the future, she should decrease the risk level she is taking by being more proactive in her own environment.

If you have done an acceptable degree of prevention, whatever the incident, and the incident still occurs, then at the very least you can say I did my part. It isn’t my fault. Because the last thing anyone wants to feel is that feeling of maybe I could have done this differently, or this, or that…The less someone has to face these feelings after a rape, the closer they are to healing.

We can tell everyone all the time from a young age until we are blue in the face that “no means no” or “lack of communiction is not consent” but just as it is with anything, variation in the human element means that rape will always happen. It is a lonely world out there, and I can only hope that there is someone out there that cares about you, but at the end of the day, we are all selfish human beings with our own needs to take care of.

That’s okay. We also try to be decent humans to each other and support each others interests.

But if you aren’t being responsible, there is no guarantee that someone else will be responsible. Empower yourself. Take the precautions needed when you need to take them. It’s okay.

What do you think of personal responsibility? What is something that you do to take charge when you’re feeling unsafe in your environment?