Please, Call Me Fat

30 Jan

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If you haven’t seen the article yet, Matel has officially announced the release of the new Barbies: petite, tall, and curvy. Find the article here. You can also check out the various skin tones, ethnicities, eye shapes, and face shapes (and order your own Barbie!) at the Barbie.com website.

The new Barbies are absolutely gorgeous! That isn’t to say that I didn’t find original Barbie gorgeous, or even that I had a problem with her portrayal of women’s bodies. I didn’t. But these new Barbie’s are so beautiful! I was absolutely thrilled when I first laid eyes on curvy Barbie’s figure; it was so similar to mine!

But alas, we decided to call her curvy (which I won’t say she isn’t). Marketing a fat Barbie would’ve been a nightmare, so I get it (don’t get me started about “curvy women’s clothing). I’m also sure that half of the women out there, regardless of size or struggle, would be up in arms about that.

But I’m here to say please, call me fat.

After all, it’s what I am. I’m blessed that my fat falls in some of the more desirable places, but those curves are still made up of fat. We’ve decided that in order to be sensitive, we need to stop saying fat, but that just disguises the issue. If being fat is okay, then saying someone is fat is okay. I don’t want to be attractive because I’m fat, and I don’t want to be unattractive because I’m fat, I want to be attractive regardless of it. When we refuse to say “fat”, it feels like we should not only be ashamed of the word but of ourselves, too. Of course, I don’t want to disregard others struggles, because there are so many body types that could also be considered “fat” or “curvy”.

I am fat. I weigh 250 lbs. I’m okay with it. You should be too.

What is a descriptive term you feel we’ve removed from our repertoire to try to be “sensitive”, but it ends up working against us? How do you feel about “fat” vs. “curvy”?

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5 Responses to “Please, Call Me Fat”

  1. buddy71 January 30, 2016 at 9:13 pm #

    where was that photo taken?
    i like women with a shape and by that i dont mean shaped like a board. curves are nice and if holding onto her i want to feel like if i squeeze her a bit, she wont break.

    • mishie1 January 30, 2016 at 9:22 pm #

      It was taken in Rocky Mountain National Park, headed to Alberta Falls

  2. L January 30, 2016 at 9:38 pm #

    Honestly, I think you look just fine. Seriously. I don’t say this to be patronizing, but I hope you’re confident in the way you look. I recently gained a fair amount of weight myself but I’ve come to grips with it and I still think I look fine. Here’s a recent photo of me from my San Diego trip: https://scontent-dfw1-1.xx.fbcdn.net/hphotos-xat1/v/t1.0-9/12033105_821283737971041_7826472504565079098_n.jpg?oh=30ed8477effbfb8ed7006e5f6bf577a6&oe=57262993

    Alas, words like “fat” “thin” whatever are just descriptors and not indicative of any set standard. Beauty is in the eye of the beholder and, hopefully always in your own eye, regardless of your size or shape.

  3. April February 1, 2016 at 6:55 am #

    “Retarded” has gone the way of the dodo. I don’t necessarily think of that as a “bad” thing or one that works against us, but it sort of feels like it’s in the same vein; quite a lot of the population could care less and look at it as “just another word.” Others are extremely hurt by it. Ironically, I think “retarded” and “fat” have come to be “bad words” because of school yard bullies for a lot of people. While they’re just words, they were hurled at countless victims over the years with the intent to hurt and hurt they did. They’ve become associated with a very derogatory sense and I can’t think of a time in life when I’ve heard someone use them and mean it in a positive way (aside from how you view fat here and now).

    To me, those words are sort of like the swastikas…hang with me for a sec; Hubby left the coffee machine in an unusable state, but I swear I’m going some where with this… Originally, they were a positive/neutral thing; a symbol of religion and decorative. Then the nazis got their paws on it and there’s no going back; most people cringe and make a very negative association.

    If I can get through my day (and I totally can) without the words “retarded” or “fat”? I will. I don’t really see the harm in it.

    • mishie1 February 1, 2016 at 12:45 pm #

      I get it, I do. But “curvy” makes me feel… Victimized? Like… “You don’t think these people are curvy, often enough because they AREN’T, you just don’t want to hurt their feelings cause fat is bad and curvy isn’t. No. Fat ISN’T bad.”

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