Archive | June, 2015

How To Stop Wanting To Be Thin

27 Jun

Because even if I was thin, and had abs, I would never be a size 5, I probably wouldn’t even be a size 10. My body just isn’t built that way, and I’m happy filling my skin. This is a lovely blog.

The Day “Gay Marriage” Became “Marriage”

26 Jun

Today is a day that will be written into the history books.

Those of us advocating for LGBT rights have long been looking for the legalization of gay marriage. It is so obviously a denial of basic rights, and is so tangible, that it has been the forerunner for civil rights denied by the LGBT community. Today, it became not something to fight for, but a door that has now opened. Because anyone can be married now regardless of sex, gender, or orientation, “gay marriage” is now just “marriage. And that is something to be excited about!

We took this away from those who have used it as a backbone to their arguments that LGBT people are apparently different than everyone else. Now, we can use this momentum to tear down other barriers to things like adoption, life saving blood donations, and instead of tolerance we can seek acceptance. A same-sex married couple doesn’t have any influence on anyone’s lives but there own, so what is there to tolerate? Nothing. Because everyone should be accepting.

The ruling by the Supreme Court of the United States today, wasn’t a landslide movement, however. Four of the nine members voted against it, and while their reasons are their own, it is hard to say why. These 4 people are holding that their reasons for voting against it was because it was unconstitutional to take away the rights of individual states to decide their own laws. It is hard for me to accept that this is their reason for voting against it.

Considering that in Loving v. Virginia the decision was unanimous, we still have a long way to go. I find it very interesting that in that supreme court ruling, that marriage was a “fundamental freedom”, and that the “freedom to marry or not marry…resides with the individual and cannot be infringed by the state” while citing the 14th amendment of the constitution lends me to believe that the 4 dissents were of no result of the constitution, but of simple bigotry.

Section 1 of Amendment XIV states:

All persons born or naturalized in the United States, and subject to the jurisdiction thereof, are citizens of the United States and of the state wherein they reside. No state shall make or enforce any law which shall abridge the privileges or immunities of citizens of the United States; nor shall any state deprive any person of life, liberty, or property, without due process of law; nor deny to any person within its jurisdiction the equal protection of the laws.


Sounds to me as though yes, the states screwed up. Yes, due process of law landed this issue in the supreme court. And YES, those states were denying the rights of their citizens, which is unconstitutional, and why no, today’s landmark decision is NOT unconstitutional. These 4 folks just found themselves on the wrong side of history.

Yay history!! Now my coworker can adopt another pet and her wife will be able to easily divorce her.


Dissents of the 4 supreme court justices.
Text of Amendment XIV.
And a really awesomely done video about it all.


Please, if you feel as though I got it wrong, I would love to hear your comments as I’m not a lawyer nor a judge (or any expert in the law, for that matter). Make sure you include reference material, though, because I don’t need a bunch of bigoted bullshit cluttering up my space. 

Aside 24 Jun

I just heard feminism supported in the best way I think I’ve ever heard.

People confuse a change in power with equality.

Equality is not women having power over men, nor is it men having power over women. At best, it is about the individual having power over oneself, but really…it is about being EQUAL. You know…it is in the name after all. “Equality”

For Those Of Us Missing A Dad On Father’s Day

21 Jun

Love you, Dad. Hope Mom was able to take you a Pepsi today…

Aside 16 Jun

There is something much more hurtful about the words “wrongful death” than “malpractice”.

5 Theories On “American Horror Story” And How The Seasons Are Connected

13 Jun

I Found My Sister’s Diary After She Disappeared

13 Jun

A Short Musing About Relationships

13 Jun

Relationships should never be made from jealousy and obsession. That is the best way to ensure that you will remain unhappy and unfulfilled.

Instead, relationships should be born from passion, and acceptance. Passion to be with and care for another human, passion for the same things, passion to grow together, and acceptance that what you see is what you get, that they have a past and so do you, and that who and how they are now is what they will continue to be.

Just a thought.

Aside 12 Jun

I think I just developed a crush on Seth MacFarlane…

Do You Lock Your Front Door?

6 Jun

Never in my life (until now, I guess) have I locked the door to my house when I’m inside. Pretty much every friend that I have does, and I only have to ask…why??

The likelihood of some stranger waltzing into your house when you’re home seems really unlikely.

But then again…I lock MY front door now. That is only because my landlord will just come on in unannounced. I don’t know why he thinks he has the right to do that, but it is SUPER annoying. And invasive. And I hate it.

So, I lock my front door.

Other than this very specific situation, I think it is a bizarre practice.

Do you lock the door when you’re home? Why?