The Territoriality of the Female Homosapien

14 Oct

This is a topic I’ve wanted to write about for quite some time, but for whatever reason the words just don’t seem to come like I want them to.

The idea first struck me when within a week a few months ago, I had heard it spoken and talked about in three different mediums. One of them was actually Girl Code, a show on MTV that is quite entertaining and often enough relateable.

So what am I actually talking about? Territoriality, specifically of women over their male friends. We’ve all been there…at least I know I have. When I was in high school, and really even up to this day, I struggled frequently with accepting any girl that my best friend liked. She was either not pretty enough, not nice enough, not right enough. I think we often use the excuse that we just want what’s best for our best friend, and in our eyes, nothing short of perfect is good enough for our perfect bestie, but it’s just an excuse. We do want the best, of course, but really, we want him for ourselves, even if we have him forever friend-zoned.

Just think about it. A new girl means your best guy friend isn’t spending as much time with you as he used to. It’s even worse if you are single.

And that’s when we start getting catty. To him, to her. And we make excuses, and sometimes even go as far as breaking them up.

But it isn’t our place. Yes, friends are important. Yes, we care about them and want whats best. And yes, sometimes that isn’t us, because significant others are important, too.

Really, there is room for both significant others and friends. No need to get catty, ladies.

Can you think of a time when you were territorial over a guy friend? How do you deal with it? Do you become catty? Why do you think girls do this, and do you think men do this with their best female friends?

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4 Responses to “The Territoriality of the Female Homosapien”

  1. autumnstrength October 14, 2013 at 3:49 pm #

    Men don’t ‘friend-zone’ women. That’s just some weird thing you women do.

    • mishie1 October 14, 2013 at 6:14 pm #

      Yeah, it’s true. Which complicates the question and I was just hoping no one would pick up on that. But are men territorial of a female friend they are interested in if she is looking for a boyfriend?

      • autumnstrength October 24, 2013 at 7:44 am #

        Men can be incredibly territorial in that way. I have been in the past. Every ‘guy’ she shows interest in is a dick and I want to punch their lights out!

  2. buddy71 October 14, 2013 at 9:19 pm #

    i disagree with autumnstrength in that some men do have women friends and we can become quite protective of them. i dont think it is done as much as women ,but it does happen. well at least it does for me and the women i am friends with.

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